The “Daddy issues” of Left and Right

Relatively few people took an interest in Lakoff’s left-wing sermon on daddy issues, so here is a right-wing sermon, slightly edited to remove irrelevancies. I disagree with the right-wing sermon, because the author claims “If it’s not us running the show, it’s someone worse.”

The first problem with that is that the author, Gavin McInnes, has an over-inflated sense of his own patriarchal potency. McInnes is a father and exercises some small authority over his spawn within his own home. But McInnes is part of the giant social structure governing the West, including its nuclear weapons, its undocumented torture rooms, its turnkey totalitarian state. McInnes is only allowed to see his children because no authoritarian cop has kicked in his door yet. McInnes feels vicarious power when he sees his favored authoritarians breaking heads – but in fact, he is deluding himself.

McInnes is ignoring right-wing statists, like the cops who committed atrocities at Homan Square. Just to recap, thousands of USA citizens were illegally detained and tortured without any figleaf of legalism.


These interrogation techniques included:

An officer holding a knife to Wilson’s neck, then slicing off parts of his hooded sweatshirt after he requested an attorney and refused to supply information on drug-dealing in his neighborhood, where he was picked up by officers while buying a soda.

An officer conducting full strip searches on Mann and his stepson Patrick, whose requests to contact lawyers and family were ignored.
Officers short-shackling both men to a bench and a wall “in dark, Spartan-like cells without food, water, or access to bathroom facilities”.
Another officer grabbing Mann by the collar and threatening his family – to arrest his wife’s “black ass” and ensure he would not see his young son grow up, Mann recalled in an interview – if he did not snitch on a heroin dealer.
Officers repeatedly using “a stream of insults, racial slurs, including the N-word, and threats” – including “bogus criminal offenses” – if his stepson did not provide intelligence on illegal guns.

This kind of authoritarian policing is the Stern Father Archetype that the leftists hate so much. You can approve or disapprove of it as good or evil, but you can’t claim it’s legal. The USA makes lots of propaganda about how the USA loves “the rule of law.” Incidents like Abu Ghraib and Homan Square belie that propaganda.

McInnes is not concerned with authoritarian, right-wing violence; McInnes just wants to decry the dirty hippies.

The following words are from McInnes:

Rescuing America From Itself
by Gavin McInnes

March 04, 2016

Last week, Kurdish authorities rescued 16-year-old Marlin Stivani Nivarlain at the behest of the Swedish government. Like something out of an SNL sketch, she had emigrated to northern Iraq because her boyfriend joined ISIS and she thought it would be fun. It wasn’t. “In the house, we didn’t have anything, no electricity, no water,” she told a Kurdistan news channel, “nothing.”

In 2008, Italian performance artist Pippa Bacca decided we had the Middle East all wrong. Muslims aren’t maniacal rapists with no respect for human life. They’re angels sent from God to love us. To prove this she began hitchhiking from Italy to Turkey while wearing a wedding dress. Shortly after she arrived in Istanbul, Bacca was raped and strangled to death. Authorities found her naked corpse thrown in the dirt like a piece of garbage. “Trust is a very human factor,” Pippa’s sister said of the mission. “She believed that to understand people, you had to get to know them.” That’s precisely the problem. They don’t know them. All they know is an idea of them and they made up that idea in their own mind.

Before millennial activist Kayla Mueller was taken hostage and eventually bombed to death in a drone strike, she was a proud American feminist who wasn’t going to sit by and let injustice happen on her watch. “For as long as I live, I will not let this suffering be normal,” she told her friends and family as she set out to rescue Syria, “something we just accept.” Progressivism hasn’t empowered these women. It’s endangered their lives. It’s made them so unassailable, they proudly walk into war zones and demand everyone behave themselves. …

Jessica Buchanan thinks women need to understand their limits and is much more likely to insist charity begins at home before returning to Africa. This is because, after committing to help Somalia deal with their land-mine problem in 2011, she was kidnapped by pirates. They refused a ransom offer of $1.5M because they’re idiots and three months later, two dozen Navy SEALs had to parachute into the small town of Adow to rescue her. Shortly before the rescue, all Buchanan could think about was how stupid she was to jeopardize her own life at such a young age and how sad it would be if she never had kids. Turns out the patriarchy isn’t so horrible after all.

My very favorite example of this suicidal hubris happened in 2010 when Amanda Kijera traveled to Haiti to prove women’s organizations were lying about the horrific rape stats there. Like Pippa, she was promptly raped. What’s amazing about Kijera’s experience is it didn’t change her mind. Marlin begged her mother to get her back to Sweden. Mueller apologized profusely for subjecting her parents to such “suffering.” Jessica wouldn’t consider going back to Africa. But Kijera remained unwavering in her blame of the white male patriarchy. In a formal statement describing the experience, she said:

I pleaded with him to honor my commitment to Haiti, to him as a brother in the mutual struggle for an end to our common oppression, but to no avail. He didn’t care…. He didn’t care that I was a Malcolm X scholar…. Black men have every right to the anger they feel in response to their position in the global hierarchy, but their anger is misdirected…. Women are not the source of their oppression; oppressive policies and the as-yet unaddressed white patriarchy which still dominates the global stage are.

This is what happens when our most vulnerable are subjected to their own dogma, but this suicidal naïveté isn’t reserved for women. In 2013, climate-change professor Chris Turney led a “ship of fools” into the Antarctic where they would plow through a thin layer of ice and prove how tropical the top of the world has become. … they quickly got stuck in ice …

We see this again and again with the left. Letting them run the show is like when I have “kids day” at home and let my children do whatever they want. They inevitably eat candy until they’re sick and stay up all night watching movies. The next day sucks as I have to get them on their feet after no sleep and try to feed them back to health. We do it once a year and they never learn.

Liberals hate power and control, but what they don’t understand is, if it’s not us, it’s someone worse. I’m not just talking about Sharia law or Bernie’s socialist dystopia. Liberals are dangerous to themselves.

The petulance of the left is based on Daddy issues and getting rid of Daddy only makes it worse. This is why Trump is so popular right now.

McInnes sees himself as a potent patriarch who is on a higher plane than his stupid, bratty children. His children pose a danger to themselves. His children are too stupid and self-destructive to be allowed freedom.

The problem, of course, is that any authoritarian can walk up to McInnes, smack him silly with a baseball bat, and then proclaim that McInnes is an inferior subhuman who poses a danger to himself and must be enslaved for the greater good. This kind of authoritarianism is why we need some leftist reverence for personal freedom. If we just worship patriarchy, we’ll collapse into authoritarianism.

Lakoff frames some Trumped-up charges

You should know who George Lakoff is. He’s the “frame” guy.

By the time you finish reading this post, you should understand why it’s posted under “Battle of the Sexes,” not “Current Events.”

Lakoff wrote:

…we tend to understand the nation metaphorically in family terms: We have founding fathers. We send our sons and daughters to war. We havehomeland security. The conservative and progressive worldviews dividing our country can most readily be understood in terms of moral worldviews that are encapsulated in two very different common forms of family life: The Nurturant Parent family (progressive) and the Strict Father family (conservative).

What do social issues and the politics have to do with the family? We are first governed in our families, and so we grow up understanding governing institutions in terms of the governing systems of families.

In the strict father family, father knows best. He knows right from wrong and has the ultimate authority to make sure his children and his spouse do what he says, which is taken to be what is right. Many conservative spouses accept this worldview, uphold the father’s authority, and are strict in those realms of family life that they are in charge of. When his children disobey, it is his moral duty to punish them painfully enough so that, to avoid punishment, they will obey him (do what is right) and not just do what feels good. Through physical discipline they are supposed to become disciplined, internally strong, and able to prosper in the external world. What if they don’t prosper? That means they are not disciplined, and therefore cannot be moral, and so deserve their poverty. This reasoning shows up in conservative politics in which the poor are seen as lazy and undeserving, and the rich as deserving their wealth. Responsibility is thus taken to bepersonal responsibility not social responsibility. What you become is only up to you; society has nothing to do with it. You are responsible for yourself, not for others — who are responsible for themselves.

Winning and Insulting

           As the legendary Green Bay Packers coach, Vince Lombardi, said,

“Winning isn’t everything. It’s the only thing.” In a world governed by personal responsibility and discipline, those who win deserve to win. Why does Donald Trump publicly insult other candidates and political leaders mercilessly? Quite simply, because he knows he can win an onstage TV insult game. In strict conservative eyes, that makes him a formidable winning candidate who deserves to be a winning candidate. Electoral competition is seen as a battle. Insults that stick are seen as victories — deserved victories.

Consider Trump’s statement that John McCain is not a war hero. The reasoning: McCain got shot down. Heroes are winners. They defeat big bad guys. They don’t get shot down. People who get shot down, beaten up, and stuck in a cage are losers, not winners.

The Moral Hierarchy

The strict father logic extends further. The basic idea is that authority is justified by morality (the strict father version), and that, in a well-ordered world, there should be (and traditionally has been) a moral hierarchy in which those who have traditionally dominated should dominate. The hierarchy is: God above Man, Man above Nature, The Disciplined (Strong) above the Undisciplined (Weak), The Rich above the Poor, Employers above Employees, Adults above Children, Western culture above other cultures, Our Country above other countries. The hierarchy extends to: Men above women, Whites above Nonwhites, Christians above nonChristians, Straights above Gays.

We see these tendencies in most of the Republican presidential candidates, as well as in Trump, and on the whole, conservative policies flow from the strict father worldview and this hierarchy

Family-based moral worldviews run deep. Since people want to see themselves as doing right not wrong, moral worldviews tend to be part of self-definition — who you most deeply are. And thus your moral worldview defines for you what the world should be like. When it isn’t that way, one can become frustrated and angry.

There is a certain amount of wiggle room in the strict father worldview and there are important variations. A major split is among (1) white Evangelical Christians, (2) laissez-fair free market conservatives, and (3) pragmatic conservatives who are not bound by evangelical beliefs.

Political Correctness

There are at least tens of millions of conservatives in America who share strict father morality and its moral hierarchy. Many of them are poor or middle class and many are white men who see themselves as superior to immigrants, nonwhites, women, nonChristians, gays — and people who rely on public assistance. In other words, they are what liberals would call “bigots.” For many years, such bigotry has not been publicly acceptable, especially as more immigrants have arrived, as the country has become less white, as more women have become educated and moved into the workplace, and as gays have become more visible and gay marriage acceptable. As liberal anti-bigotry organizations have loudly pointed out and made a public issue of the unAmerican nature of such bigotry, those conservatives have felt more and more oppressed by what they call “political correctness” — public pressure against their views and against what they see as “free speech.” This has become exaggerated since 911, when anti-Muslim feelings became strong. The election of President Barack Hussein Obama created outrage among those conservatives, and they refused to see him as a legitimate American (as in the birther movement), much less as a legitimate authority, especially as his liberal views contradicted almost everything else they believe as conservatives.

Donald Trump expresses out loud everything they feel — with force, aggression, anger, and no shame. All they have to do is support and vote for Trump and they don’t even have to express their ‘politically incorrect’ views, since he does it for them and his victories make those views respectable. He is their champion. He gives them a sense of self-respect, authority, and the possibility of power.

Whenever you hear the words “political correctness” remember this.

Why Trump?

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