Esther Vilar

Esther Vilar The manipulated man 1972 is a 1971 book by author Esther Vilar.

Here are some quotes:
Here is a list of issues which I recognized in the original book to be men’s most
significant disadvantages compared to women.
1. Men are conscripted; women are not.
2. Men are sent to fight in wars; women are not.
3. Men retire later than women (even though, due to their lower life-expectancy,
they should have the right to have the right to retire earlier).
4. Men have almost no influence over their reproduction (for males, there is neither
a pill nor abortion – they can only get the children women want them to have).
5. Men support women; women never, or only temporarily, support men.
6. Men work all their lives; women work only temporarily or not at all.
7. Even though men work all their lives, and women work only temporarily or not at
all, on average, men are poorer than women.
8. Men only `borrow’ their children; woman can keep them (as men work all their
lives and women do not, men are automatically robbed of their children in cases of
separation – with the reasoning that they have to work).

Whatever men set about to impress women with, counts for nothing in the world of
women. Only another woman is of importance in her world.
Of course, a woman will always be pleased if a man turns to look at her – and if he is
well dressed or drives an expensive sports car, so much the better. Her pleasure
may be compared to that of a shareholder who finds that his stocks have risen. It will
be a matter of complete indifference to a woman if he is attractive or looks intelligent.
A shareholder is hardly likely to notice the color of his dividend checks.
But if another woman should turn to look – a rare occurrence, for her own judgment is
infinitely more remorseless than that of a man – her day is made. She has achieved
the impossible – the recognition, admiration, and `love’ of other women.
Yes, only women exist in a woman’s world. The women she meets at church, at
parent-teacher meetings, or in the supermarket; the women with whom she chats
over the garden fence; the women at parties or window-shopping in the more
fashionable streets; those she apparently never seems to notice – these women are
the measure of her success or failure. Women’s standards correspond to those in
other women’s heads, not to those in the heads of men; it is their judgment that really
counts, not that of men. A simple word of praise from another woman – and all those
clumsy, inadequate male compliments fall by the wayside, for they are just praises
out of the mouths of amateurs. Men really have no idea in what kind of world women
live in; their hymns of praise miss all the vital points.